Dating communication styles
Mention the things you love to do, including introverted things when you're at home all day long, she said.
If you belong to a book group or have read everything by Isaac Asimov, say that.
Hartman said the key to feeling comfortable is to focus on making the other person feel the same. "Try to meet people partway and if it feels nerve-wracking, don’t focus on your own feelings of discomfort. That’s the backwards irony of all this: They’re so focused on their own feelings.
"That’s a lot to ask for someone who’s introverted, especially in an area already outside of his comfort zone," Hartman said.
"It’s a way of fulfilling sentimental human need for connection and romance without having to put yourself through a very unpleasant process of going to singles bars and things like that," Cain told , Cain writes about the "self-negating choices" introverts make when they feel the pressure to identify themselves as outgoing.
Hartman said that this is a choice she sees introverts make in their online dating profiles.
Five results came up, one of which ended up becoming his wife.
“He shared the online profile his future wife had written, and you could see she was so charming and soulful in an introverted way," Cain said.